"I’ve had lots of happy moments. I’ve been lucky. But I always think the happiest moment hasn’t happened yet. I’m talking about the queen of happy moments. The biggie. The unfathomable. The epitome of happiness. The only thing is, I worry that when it comes along I won’t recognize it. It’ll be flashing away there at the edge of my vision and I’ll be looking so hard that I’ll just let it float right by."
"People who claim that they’re evil are usually no worse than the rest of us… It’s people who claim that they’re good, or any way better than the rest of us, that you have to be wary of."
I need feminism because I shouldn’t have to wear clothes that make me look “less attractive” to strangers just so I can feel safer while taking public transit.
#late night thoughts
I’ve thought long and hard about our “relationship.” Some people may think we didn’t really have a relationship because it didn’t follow the conventional limitations of what a relationship is. But we did. And it was beautiful.
I was forced to recently think about us and how we were as a couple. You infuriated me on so many levels. You told me the truth when I wanted lies. You didn’t hold anything back from me when I wanted to be blinded. You made me laugh when I didn’t want to smile. You made me love when I didn’t want to feel vulnerable.
At the time, being forced into such predicaments made me resent you. How dare you make me behave differently than what my mind was telling me. How dare you make me listen to my heart when I was trying to ignore its advice.
Despite my better judgment, I fell for you. I fell for the way you’d look at me in an argument and say, “I love your smile,” or “You’re amazing.” I fell for your inappropriately timed jokes and your smirk when I didn’t find you amusing. I fell for the way you forced me to open up about my past and it didn’t damage your perception of me. I fell for the way you made me feel sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, and worth the greatest love.
You were so different from other people because we were equals. I could speak my mind around you and you never belittled or dismissed what I had to say. We made decisions together.
I wish that I could look back at you and hate you, or at least feel anger towards you. To be honest, I’m grateful for you. I learned what a good relationship should have as well as what it shouldn’t have. I learned what adoration looks like and how good it feels to finally trust someone. I learned that I should have higher expectations and not sell myself short just because I may be lonely. Most importantly, I learned that I am important, that I am smart, and that I am worth being happy.
Thank you for everything. You changed me so much, for the better. I wish that I changed you for the better. I may never know but I do know that because of you, I’ll be a better person and a better lover.
"We need never be hopeless because we can never be irreparably broken."
I would like to see this ceiling on the floor. I’m not sure how they did this, but it reminds me of stained concrete. I think I would love a stained concrete floor, in browns and golds with a little blue for the heck of it.
"When a relationship is over, leave. Don’t continue watering a dead flower."
Project for my Social Psych class last semester. This poster series was created to 1) challenge these internalized stereotypes by bringing them to the viewer’s attention and 2) expand the range of role models by including a diverse group of women. Each poster follows the same basic pattern: a woman who has demonstrated her competency in a particular area refutes the stereotype that appears above her in the form of “Girls can’t …”. While the posters target girls ranging from children to young adults, I expect the message would also cause people outside that demographic to question their own beliefs about women and power. I designed each aspect of the posters with several principles of social psychology in mind: